Yesterday was my 11th brain injuryiversary! Perhaps not a celebratory event to the vast majority of people, but it kinda is for me, because I didn’t die! It hasn’t been easy and I wish someone would’ve known enough to tell me a few things: when I first got home I couldn’t talk and could barely move, here’s what I learned:
lesson #1 DON’T GIVE UP!!!– No matter what the doctors and therapists may or may not say you have to be in charge of your own life and what happens! Doc’t let others naysaying have a lasting negative influence on your life!
“When the weight we carry breaks us, we’re tempted to stay down
But every road to recovery, starts at the breakdown”-Rise Against
Which brings me to lesson #2 DON’T BE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF!!!– It’s easy (especially with social media) to compare yourself to others or judge yourself negatively. The journey is personal, so just because someone else is having a way easier time with something, DOES NOT mean you suck.
Also lesson #3 YOU WILL FORGET THINGS!!! other things you might remember while others forget, like names, dates and other relatively unimportant factoids(BTW people get REALLY pissed when this happens).
So, lesson #4 YOU WILL BE AN ASSHOLE SOMETIMES- I don’t really mean to be rude, snappy or hostile, but it happens, if I do it to you and I’m ordinarily pretty nice, I don’t mean it, I just can’t help it (people do this all the time w/o the benefit of having an excuse).
lesson #5 YOUR BRAIN AND MOUTH ARE NOT FRIENDS!!!- This is unfortunate because there are so many things I think of and they sound COMPLETLY different when I voice them, case in point, when I first got sick and was hospitalized my mother visited EVERYDAY (much awesome than I give her credit for), so I practiced ALL DAY in my head telling her how much I loved her; she came, sat on my bed and brushed my leg and I screamed “GET THE FUCK OFF OF ME!!!”
So I guess this is lesson #6 for what I wish I knew then: LAUGH– Life’s hard, things aren’t easy, don’t take yourself so seriously that you forget to actually LIVE!!!
Well, that’s all I’ve got on this, so, be well stay safe and have a great night!
Peace, much love and many hugs C xxx